Models, Mortals, and the Myth of Being “Enough"

Welcome to your Sex and the City Rewind blog. Today lets discuss, Episode 2 of season one, which let me tell you, it hit me like a reality check wrapped in a Cosmopolitan. Big is finally “officially” introduced, but he's not the BIG story line here. But are we really surprised to know that he’s a bit mysterious and commitment-phobic.  The man practically screams, “I’ll ruin your life but look good doing it.”

But like I said, Big’s aloof energy wasn’t even the main part of this episode. Nope. The gut punch of this episode? The guys in Carrie’s circle all start drooling over models. Like apparently, eating one grape for dinner and pretending bread doesn’t exist is peak sexy, (and probably the reason why I struggled with my body image during those years...) Cue Carrie spiraling into the same trap we’ve all fallen into at some point: Am I enough compared to her?

And it wasn’t just Carrie. Miranda was starts dating a 'modelizer' and his friends FINALLY like one of his dates...but ultimately ends up going back to what he likes. I mean talk about patterns not being broken and wondering why you keep getting the same results! Samantha finds out that Carrie has a friend that likes to record his...'sessions' and wants to know why SHE hasn't been invited to the party. I guess this was a power trip for her...I mean there is something about watching yourself...well you know...IYKYK...and if you don't...don't judge! 

So lets fast forward to today, and honestly… not much has changed. Models have just been replaced by influencers with face filters and highlight reels. We’re still comparing ourselves to impossible standards while giving attention to people who barely deserve a saved contact name in our phones.

And I know you’ve been there. Comparing your body, your job, your entire life to strangers on Instagram. Wondering if you need to be quieter, thinner, sexier, less you to be chosen.

Well darling I am here to tell you to WAKE UP!!!  If someone makes you feel like you’re in competition for their attention, you’re not dating, you’re auditioning. And auditions are for jobs or a role on an Emmy nominated show, not for relationships.

Love isn’t about who has the smallest waist or the biggest following. The right person doesn’t choose you despite your quirks, they choose you because of them. Your sarcasm, your drive, your big laugh that fills a room, that’s the stuff that makes you unforgettable.

So do yourself a favor this week and write down three things that make you unforgettable. Not “pretty” things. Not “Instagrammable” things. The real stuff that people who love you already brag about. Keep that list close, and the next time insecurity starts whispering lies, read it out loud.

So hey, look models and mortals may live on the same planet, but if someone can’t see your worth without comparing you to the latest filter, they’re not the one for you. 

If you’re ready to stop auditioning for love and start attracting the relationship you actually deserve, book your free Love Blueprint Session with me. We’ll map out exactly what you want in love, what’s been holding you back, and how to start calling in a connection that feels both safe and electric.

Until the next one, always remember to,

Choose you. Love you. Pick you. 💕✨