Stop Waiting for Someone to Complete You

Okay, can we talk about the fairy tale lie we were all sold? You know the one that goes…“Once I find my person, everything will fall into place and I’ll finally feel happy and whole.” Yeah… about that.

I used to buy into it too. I’d daydream about someone swooping in, fixing all my loneliness, and magically quieting every insecurity. But here’s the thing, when your peace depends on another person showing up, it leaves just as quickly as they can walk away. And that’s a big problem.

I’ve seen it happen over and over again, we get into relationships hoping the other person will fill the gaps, only to realize they can’t be our everything. And honestly? They shouldn’t have to be. That’s not love, that’s just an emotional hostage participating in a cute Instagram couple photo.

Here’s the painful but eye opening reality that I had to accept; peace isn’t something you “get” from being in love. It’s not a prize someone hands you because you were good enough to keep. It’s already inside you. It’s been there this whole time! You just kind of forgot how to reach it. So this is something that you can try out, which believe me helped me so much. This week, take yourself on a solo date. I know I know…it’s awkward at first, but trust me it gets easier with time. Go somewhere you’ve been waiting for someone else to invite you to. For example, a restaurant, a movie, or even a day trip. And go all out, dress up for you, order what you want and please don’t rush thru it because of the discomfort. Prove to yourself that you can create joy without waiting for someone to deliver it!

I am going to share with you the thing that took me years to understand, and I’m only doing this because I really like you, and I want to save you that time. You ready for it…when you stop waiting for someone to complete you, you make space for someone who actually complements the peace you already own. TA-DA!! *insert fanfare sound effect here*. Try the exercise out and let me know how it went.

If you’re ready to stop putting your happiness on layaway until “the one” shows up, book your free Love Blueprint Session with me. Let’s map out the relationship you want and get you ready to call it in, without losing yourself in the process.

Until the next one, remember to always…

Choose You. Love You. & Pick You.💕✨