The Episode That Proves Being Single Is Its Own Power Move

Welcome back to your Sex and the City Rewind blog. Okay, let’s talk about that episode that tried to shame our singleness. In season 1 episode 3, Carrie stays at her married friends’ Hamptons house and realizes that sometimes, being single around couples feels like you’ve wandered into a club you didn’t know had a dress code.

The whole vibe of this episode screams: married people vs. single people. And wow… hasn’t every single one of us felt that at some point? You know the awkward dinners, the side comments, "oh don’t worry, you’ll find someone soon”, UGH! Then there's the way conversations turn into couple Olympics. It’s like being single is a problem everyone else suddenly wants to solve.

And then there’s the twist...Carrie getting "hit on" by her married friend’s husband. He literally walks up to her naked...like its normal. Which, let’s be real, is the worst kind of thing that can happen to a single gal. It shows how quick some people are to project their boredom or dissatisfaction onto single friends. And of course, when Carrie brings it up, SHE gets blamed for it. Because, it’s easier to shame the single woman than to hold the married man accountable. Sound familiar?

What struck me rewatching this was how the show nailed that invisible line between married and single women. Instead of community, it sometimes turns into competition or suspicion.  But underneath it, there’s this question Carrie poses: can singles and couples really be friends? Or will judgment, envy, or assumptions always sneak in?

Here’s my take: yes, it is very possible, but only if both sides respect boundaries and stop projecting. Couples don’t get to play savior or gatekeeper, and singles don’t need to be defensive. We just need honesty, respect, and the freedom to live without labels and however we choose to. 

Look if you’re single right now? That’s not a waiting room, that’s your life. You are on your own timeline, not anyone else’s. You don’t owe anyone an explanation, and you don’t have to apologize for where you are. Being single isn’t a problem to fix. It’s a time in your life where you get to live, learn, and fully embrace the present. 

So the next time someone makes you feel “less than” for being single, remember that their relationship status is not a badge of superiority. And if you’re the one in a relationship? Don’t forget what it felt like to be on the other side. 

Because whether single or married, at the end of the day, we’re all just figuring out love.

Always remember to Choose You. Love You, & Pick You.