The Power of Female Sex: When Desire Becomes Currency

There’s a moment in every woman’s life when she realizes her sexuality doesn’t just attract, it negotiates. In season 1 episode 5, Carrie faces this truth head-on when her charm gets her a pair of thousand-dollar Manolos… only to leave her questioning if desire has quietly turned into currency.

On the surface, it feels flattering. The attention, the gifts, the rush of being wanted. But underneath? It’s complicated. Because once intimacy is treated like a transaction, who’s really in control?

Carrie wrestles with this throughout the episode. The fine line between enjoying her feminine power and feeling objectified by it. And let’s be honest, that line still exists in 2025. Today it might look less like free shoes and more like expensive dinners, Venmo “help,” or the fuzzy boundaries of a situationship where affection feels earned, not freely given.

It raises the bigger question: is it empowerment, or is it compromise? Owning your sexuality is one thing. Using it as currency is another. And too often, women are left navigating the messy middle, wondering if they’ve just signed up for a deal they didn’t actually agree to.

Here’s what I take from Carrie’s stumble: power isn’t in what someone else gives you because of your body, your beauty, or your charm. True power is in knowing you don’t have to trade those things at all. Your worth isn’t negotiable, and your love — when you give it — is never a transaction.

So yes, enjoy the heels, enjoy the flirtation, enjoy feeling magnetic. But don’t mistake borrowed power for your own. Because the real flex? Walking away, shoes or not, with your self-respect intact.

So I can't help but wonder...where in your dating life have you confused “being wanted” with “being valued”? And how can you start separating the two?

Always remember to Choose You. Love You. Pick You. 

Sarai